Partying Sober – Myths and Reality
This week there has been lots of chatter in the Club Soda community about dealing with partying sober for the first time – feeling too sensible and awkward.
Laura pulls no punches this week and suggests that most of what we think about partying sober is a myth – distorted by our relationship with alcohol.
There was a time when we made friends with new people without alcohol, so why do we feel alcohol is the only way to fit in? Partly, we use alcohol to endure events we don’t enjoy – why should we endure anything?
We need to start reminding ourselves why we want to spend time with people like us, and that is the energy familiarity brings to our lives, not the drink.
We need to start reawakening our curiousness, focus on making meaningful (and remembered) connections, and seek out the other people not drinking. They are usually there. Let’s find new experiences that make us feel great for spending time with people.
Also, don’t forget why you started this journey. Remember that it is a process, and as time goes on you will feel less awkward. Most of all, don’t be over-sentimental about the times you partied drunk. Often that was some time ago, and life has already moved on. This is a new phase of your life. Embrace the process of change!
And no more enduring – if you don’t want to do something then don’t!
Want to read more about fellow Club Soda members who have embraced partying sober and are confident and thriving in their sobriety? Why not delve into our Inspiring Sotires category? The Sober Milllenial story by Kate, a former party girl who has started the Sober Millenials group is a story of overcoming peer pressure and partying sober. And Marcus shares how he managed to go to a stag do in Ibiza and maintain his mindful drinking goals.