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Planning for pitfalls

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This post was written by Club Soda member and psychologist Helen O’Connor.

Pitfalls when planning not to drink

When we are trying to act in ways that are different to our usual routines and responses (like not drinking when we usually do), there are many ways we might be distracted from our new plan and be tempted to revert to old tried-and-tested habits.

Although it’s not easy, the first step in getting stronger at resisting urges and sticking to our plans is to understand what kinds of things might trip us up. Only then can we start to develop strategies for coping with them when they inevitably arise.

Using a daily ritual helps you to consciously scan the day ahead for things that might undermine your choice and desire to have an alcohol free day (possible pitfalls) and plan and rehearse how you will respond or cope with them.

There are so many possible pitfalls – and possible coping strategies.

Today we want to touch on external pitfalls – these come from things around you, including people, places, things and situations that might cause you to feel an urge for a drink.

People

When you are getting ready for your day, scan the day ahead for the people you will be meeting, and any social plans that are in your diary. Be honest with yourself:

If you answer ‘yes’ to any of these questions, then you will need to plan and rehearse a coping strategy for dealing with this possible pitfall.

Places

Creatures of learning and habit that we are, certain cues in our environment can create small (or large) urges for alcohol because they remind us about alcohol and drinking. We probably can’t avoid them all, but it helps to be aware of them so that we aren’t surprised by an urge.

When you are scanning the day ahead in your daily ritual, ask yourself:

Again, if you have answered ‘yes’ to any of these questions, you will need to plan and rehearse a coping strategy that will help you avoid alcohol and manage your urges.

When I (Helen) was working on controlling my drinking, the place that was most associated with alcohol for me was the supermarket on the way home from work because it was where I used to buy my daily bottle of wine that I drank alone at home. Pubs, clubs, even my well-stocked drinks cabinet of liqueurs and spirits (that I only associated with guests and Christmas) were not high-risk places for me.   

Situations

Similarly, events and situations can be associated with alcohol – whether because we usually drink in those situations, or because everyone else does and will expect us to as well.

Pay attention to situations during the day where you usually have a drink:

Avoiding drinking when it is part of your regular routine may well cause some niggly urges, because of the strong association that has built up often over many years that in situation X we will have a drink.

Also think about whether there are any less frequent or one-off situations happening today that you would usually drink in:

Avoiding drinking in one-off situations such as parties or events might not lead to strong urges, but might require us to have some plans in place to deal with the expectations of others that we will be drinking, and to decline when drinks are offered.

Things

Don’t underestimate the power of small sensory cues that can lead to thoughts and then urges for alcohol. Some of my clients have spoken about craving alcohol when they see people on TV drinking – like Come Dine With Me, or the soaps. Even the sound of a ring-pull opening or the smell of alcohol can set off a niggly urge.

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